Ladies, I love you all. No matter where you’re from, the color of your skin, what you identify as, the Queen loves you. I know that you all desire love. You deserve love. I know you don’t want to be alone. I know that you don’t want to start over. I understand how we’re conditioned as women compared to men. Women were fed fairytales of happily ever after. Men were not. This desire for a perfect, happily ever after ending irregardless of whether or not the man is actually right for you is what’s scary. Sort of this fantasy that many of you seem to be holding onto. Women have been made to believe they are ‘less than’ men making men superior. And that a woman’s value is in being chosen by a man, that her worth is attached to her relationship status. Wrong! But this mindset, this programming has many of you choosing poorly, staying in the wrong relationships, accepting sh*t crumbs, and just willing to settle for anything in the name of having someone. You’re not thinking about yourself. You’re not thinking about your goals and dreams. You’re not thinking about what YOU need. You’re not thinking about your own soul. That’s disheartening. Men cannot live without women. This world would not function without women. Women are the ones who have the ability to create life. The simple fact that you have a womb and can bring another human being into this world speaks volumes! Pat yourself on the back! You are a powerful creation of God. You are powerful. There are a number of insecure, low-level men that want to keep you thinking small. They want to keep you in check. They know that if more women understood their power and really started to walk in their power like the goddesses they are, oh things would change. A lot of the things they’ve been able to get away with would stop. If women operated from a high level of Queendom or Queenness, oh how the world would change.
Some of you have been with your “friend” or your boyfriend for years. Even though it’s a toxic relationship, situationship, or a very unhealthy relationship, you still choose to stay. Why? What is it doing for you? D*ck can never be that good. For some, I know a child or children may be involved. Some people think that people should stay together for the kids. I do not. My belief is that you are setting the example for your kids and they will mimic what they see. Do as I say but not as I do does not work. So if you stay in a loveless relationship, that’s what you’re teaching them to do as well when they become adults. I’m not here to tell you what to do. I’m not here to judge you. However, I want you all to at least ask yourself the hard questions about your relationship or situationship. It’s 2022. We just cannot have you accepting peasant behavior anymore. You just can’t keep yourself attached to the wrong energy for God’s sake. Kings only! Mature, grown men only! Ladies, you are a prize. A good woman is a prize to a good man. She’s a blessing. Did any of you watch Bridgerton on Netflix? All I’m going to note from that series is that when the men arrived for the women they wanted, they never came empty handed. Most of them showed up with at least flowers. The expectation is that he’s able to take care of her. She would be provided for. There were no peasants. Translating that to current times, there were no men with absolutely nothing to offer her. I need you to catch that.
As I mentioned in a previous article, many of you are taking care of grown men. Well, they’re really grown boys. A man child. You’re not his mother. Just like some women, there are plenty of men who have not done the work to heal themselves. Issues of abandonment, absentee parents, rejection…those things are real. And when unhealed, manifest into instances like lashing out at you like a child, trying to control your every move, being controlling and manipulative, etc. You are not supposed to be his emotional punching bag. How are you helping him and yourself by taking in all those emotional hits? Don’t you think that has an effect on your confidence and self-esteem as a woman? You don’t have to make him into a man. You are not responsible for what happened to him in his childhood. You have nothing to do with that. You’re not going to get a medal for taking on a ‘project’ or being his so-called ride or die. He needs healing. If you love him, why not let him put on his big boy pants and get healing such as therapy or a life coach? This way, you can also focus on yourself for once.
Life is too short. You deserve happiness ladies. You deserve to be with someone that lifts you up. Love lifts you up. It doesn’t tear you down. This is not the tribe for struggle love. This is a royal tribe and you are highly regarded. Many of you ladies have spent most of your life, if not all, taking care of everyone else except yourself. You go from relationship to relationship. You keep choosing projects, someone you think you can ‘fix’, hoping your love will make him change when it never does. Mature adult relationships require mature adult behavior. I was engaged before to a good man but he wasn’t the right man. It’s my intention to never dishonor myself like that again. I’m not perfect but I’ve definitely done work on myself and continue to so I make better decisions. That’s all we can do. But you have to do the inner work on yourself. With these situationships and relationships that aren’t benefitting you, what are you doing to your soul? You set the standard. Can you really be upset? You have allowed him to treat you a certain way. He can talk to you any kind of way, treat you poorly, and still get his physical needs met. You have tolerated this behavior for years so what motivation does he have to change? Just because you’ve been with him for years shouldn’t be an excuse to not put yourself first. Just because you’ve accepted less than you deserve for years doesn’t mean that you can’t make a shift. You’re a grown woman. You can make a different decision. If you’re not happy, not feeling loved, not feeling like yourself being with him…you have every right to make a decision that’s in YOUR best interest. You deserve to put yourself first. He cannot do what you don’t allow. He’s only doing what you’ve been allowing. Dealing with a man child should not be that appealing. Take a look in the mirror. Look at the Goddess staring back at you. Own your power. Find the strength within you to stop settling for less. The Queen in you – time for her to reign! Take your power back ladies! You deserve it! You are worthy of it!
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