There are some guys that would not have a place to live if it weren’t for a woman. There are guys that are completely dependent on a woman. They really don’t know how to function without having a woman in their life. I love my Queens but sis, some of you are a part of the problem. I understand that you may have been a single parent. You may have not received love growing up and wanted to make sure that your child didn’t grow up feeling that way so you overcompensated for your son(s). I get it sis. And you didn’t know any better. For reasons like this, as a man, you were never held accountable and you choose women that don’t hold you accountable or to a higher standard. And you wonder why you haven’t been progressing in life? You keep choosing women that allow you to remain comfortable. The crazy thing is that a number of you guys complain about these same women. You won’t level up. You won’t challenge yourself. You won’t do the inner work. So you go right back to what’s comfortable and familiar which is exactly what you don’t need. It’s easy. You’re not ready for the higher quality woman that you claim you want. That high quality woman won’t accept the low bar that you’re operating from and she’s going to hold you accountable. If you’re not ready for that, you’ll let your ego get the best of you. That woman holding you to a higher standard is what you need. It’s what you claim to tell God or your higher power that you’re looking for. However, once you get her, you realize you’re not ready for her so you sabotage it somehow. This cycle continues to repeat itself since you haven’t learned your lesson yet. And a number of you blame the woman each time and refuse to acknowledge your part in the downfall.
A woman is not required to “birth” you. She is not your mother. You are not her son. You may have grown up being catered to by the women who raised you so you believe a woman is supposed to pamper you but that behavior isn’t going to pass for a high quality woman. In the same way that women have daddy issues, there are a number of men that have mommy issues. Hence why everyone should be doing the inner work to heal themselves. Our childhood has had an impact on all of us. A lot of us are holding onto things from childhood that are unresolved and showing up in our adult relationships.
Commit to healing fellas. I believe everyone can benefit from talking to someone. It can be a life coach, a counselor, relationship coach, spiritual teacher, therapist, etc. Everyone should sit on someone’s couch even if that couch is “virtual”. We all have issues. We all have flaws and imperfections. No one is perfect. Even coaches have coaches. Doing the inner work is ongoing.
As much as some guys like to deflect and try and diminish women, a number of these same guys wouldn’t know what to do or how to function without a woman. They go from relationship to relationship because they don’t know how to be by themselves. Maybe the women in his childhood spoiled the sh*t out of him. Thus, he never had to do anything on his own. He never had to grow up. Who knows. It makes me think of a man child or a grown boy. The fact remains that because of a woman, you have what you have. And arguably a woman you may not even deserve.
If a woman with low self-esteem, for example, loved herself and recognized her worth, she wouldn’t have chosen you. And you know this. She wouldn’t have invested her hard-earned money into an investment in which there’d be no return. She wouldn’t have fallen for your good looks or manipulation only to later realize you were never really right for her. You took more from her than you gave. You wouldn’t be on earth now if it wasn’t for a woman. So before you try to silence or diminish a woman in any way especially for having standards, let’s keep things in perspective. A lot of what many of you have is because of a woman. Give us that respect. Lisa wouldn’t accept anything less.
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